Tell Me What Hurts And I’ll Tell You What You Need To Forgive
To live fully, we must learn to listen to what our body says. The first time that I became aware of this was when I read Louise L. Hay’s wonderful book Heal your Life. After that, I gradually discovered that different philosophies and trends of thought regarding personal and spiritual growth such as metaphysics, NLP, Gestalt Therapy, Theta healing, Reiki healing, energy medicine, and even yoga, explain that although illness may be related to genes, most of the people suffer an illness because they accumulate resentment, hate and anger. They live by clinging to their past, loaded with anger, hate, and sadness. These people live to please others by the standards that have been established as the correct ones. They do not accept themselves and they lack self love, carrying guilt, frustration, resentment, and other emotions that arise from thoughts that they cannot control. So there comes a time in which their bodies say “this needs a way out”. So, illnesses and symptoms manifest, and that is the way that the body talks. And even though a doctor can treat us and give us medicine, the illness can prolong itself. This is because we haven’t gotten to the root that originated such illness. We all create our experiences based on the thoughts that we choose. These give birth to feelings and then to actions, bringing us to a result. The problems arise when we are in denial of this simple process and begin blaming others for our frustrations. In fact, our life is nothing but a reflection of our mental state. if there is peace, harmony, and balance in our minds, then our lives can only be peaceful, harmonious, and balanced. And if we have negative thoughts, we know what happens.
Our body speaks to us wisely, so we must learn to listen, since it will guide us to the situation that is causing the problem and heal it without creating so much damage.
The body often screams what the mouth won’t say, and then the real problem explodes in all sorts of unpleasant situations .
Fortunately, many belief systems and even medical studies have confirmed that we can prevent and even heal the body, if we can identify the situation that generated the feelings we are currently carrying and that are preventing us from moving forward.
For each body part that presents symptoms or signs of imbalance, there’s an emotion linked to it. Those who have studied the subject for years have identified some of the causes, and I’m sure you will agree with some of them:
For example, a cold often represents repressed tears that are trying to come out in any way, while a sore throat means you still have some things to say to someone and you are not able to communicate your afflictions to them.
Your neck represents the flexibility that you have as a person. Pain in the ankles is progress or resistance that you have towards life. People who wear glasses or have trouble hearing reflect the fact that they see or hear things that are not pleasant to them. Stomach problems reveal issues in digesting situations and the ability to communicate in your closest relationships. Another body part that carries many of our emotions is our back. According to the experts, lower back issues usually represent financial worries or a sensation of lack of support while problems in the upper back tell us that we are carrying someone else’s stuff.
Other examples are: Thigh problems are said to be related to what others expect of you or what you think that they expect from you. If the situation is in the calves, it is linked to what you expect from yourself.
The knees are associated with the way in which internal and external expectations are balanced. It is also said that problems in the knees arise with your pride doesn’t “bend”.
If the ankles have problems, the situation could be related to how a person links expectations with reality. If the issues are related to the feet instead, the person may be having difficulties with support and balance. If the forehead hurts, it relates to the way we face the world. Heart problems are related to basic emotional and primary relationships. Problems with your teeth and gums depend on the way that you relate to the world. Headaches come when doubt increases. The nails break when your defenses feel threatened. Blood pressure increases when fear traps you. If you gain excessive weight in your thighs, it could be related to feelings of guilt and shame or the fear of being sexually attacked, so the extra serves as protection.
To all this, we have to add on which side of your body you are feeling the imbalances:
The left side is your receptive side, your feminine and motherly aspects. The right side is your male side, associated with the outside, the one that pushes and is oriented towards the world. Any illnesses could indicate a refusal in you to any of these two aspects (feminine and masculine of your being), and indicates a need to self forgive, heal, and harmonize with the person or situation that is activating the imbalance in you. According to Bioenergética, symptoms that manifest in people are explained through the First Principle: laterality. The left side of the body reflects the significant family relationships: father, mother, brothers, children. The right side determines the social relationships: neighbors, couples, friends, work. This means that depending on which side the symptom is present, we must review if the problem is linked to a family or social issue. There is a model of the relationship between emotions and physical symptoms developed by the hypnotherapist John Kappas that can give us an idea of what may be happening emotionally when we develop certain symptoms in specific areas of the body. For example, the specialist talks about the crying syndrome, which involves the solar plexus, chest, head, and neck. This one relates to the inability to make a decision towards the actions of another person or a previous condition that makes decision making very difficult. Its most common feature is the headache. Because of the frustration caused by indecision, the brain tells the scalp to tighten, causing pain. Sometimes the stress is so severe that it compresses the veins and causes a migraine. Other very recognizable symptoms of this syndrome are the crystallization of the eyes, the relaxation of tear ducts that continuously drip into the eyes, congestion of the sinuses, the contraction of the throat muscles, gastric pressure on the chest, tension of the jaw muscles, and clenching .
Each of these physical reactions may be associated with an emotional or mental cause. Thus, according to this theory, the pressure in the head represents the inability to make decisions. The watery eyes and sinus congestion symbolize the refusal to see a situation, causing indecision. The contraction of the throat, tension of the jaw muscles, and clenching is a result of refusing to discuss the matter of the indecision .
Indecision can then turn into frustration and then into melancholiness, depression, and finally inertia. Chronic indecision can be classified as a major problem in our fast paced society, particularly in people between fifteen and thirty-five years.
When the affected areas are the shoulders, the upper back, and the spine, it relates to the syndrome of responsibility. This occurs when the individual psychologically feels excessive responsibility, fear of taking responsibility, or negligence and lack of acceptance to take responsibility.
When the affected areas are the groin, the stomach, and lower back, it is due to guilt and sexual frustration which occurs by sexual guilt related to religious belief, feelings of guilt due to infidelity and promiscuity, and sexual incapacity. Symptoms may vary between gastric cramps, constipation, heartburn, and intense menstrual cramps, excessive or absent menstrual flow, vaginal infections or cystitis, pressure or pain in the prostate or testicles, and kidney disease.
Lastly, the specialist talks indicates the fighting syndrome, which affects arms, hands, and fingers. The psychological causes are the need of expression and the repression to do so, the incapacity to reach what one desires due to low self esteem, and a deep feeling of rejection towards wanting to reach unreachable goals. Symptoms include warts and small blisters. The second principle is verticality, in which each area of the body reflects different aspects. The head looks at the abstract, the ideas, and the fantasy. My identity, my ego, my image, is located in this part of the body. All the symptoms between the neck and the waist can be linked to vitality and love issues. “In this area, I have all the organs that I need to be alive like the heart and lungs.” The area that goes from the waist to the abdomen (the lowest part of the digestive apparatus) carries manifestations of the issues that are linked to the waste, all that not longer serve us or nourish us anymore. All the things that need to be in the body only for a short period of time.
Issues of sexual identity , passion, ability to transcend, fears, and deep feelings are manifested in the genital area. The legs reflect the support and the contact with reality and concrete things in life. The arms allow people to project into the future, without disturbing their balance. With them, you can set lengthen distance, or shorten it. According to the expert that we consulted, to realize the work from the Bioenergética perspective, it’s necessary to know the history of the patient’s life and work with it and with the observation. Which ones are the energetic blockages that the person has? These need to be worked out and unblocked with therapeutic exercises.
Often the body cries what the mouth doesn’t say. So how is your quiet pain talking to your body?